I met my wife 10 years ago. She was my best friend. We got married five years ago, and we have a seven-year-old daughter who was born with a disability. Last year my wife told me she was a lesbian (and has been all her life), but she still loved me and did not know what to do. I was shocked and hurt, but I was not angry at her because she did not cheat on me and told me straight up. First off, let me say how sorry I am about your situation. I tried to be as supportive as I could.

I never argued with her about marrying me or anything of the sort. We split up on good terms but because of my daughter’s disability we stayed living together because I wanted to be with my daughter. We have never got around to getting a divorce so we are still married. She dated someone for months, and I went on a few dates, but I found It was too soon for something serious. You sound like a good man and an excellent father. A few weeks ago my wife broke up with her girlfriend.

We went out to a friend’s wedding and got together and have been sleeping in the same bed together every night since. She says she wants me back. Should we try to make it work? I would like us to be a family for my daughter, but I will always know that she’s not 100 percent happy and neither will I be happy. I would find a reputable family therapist to help determine the best course for myself and my child. Thank you. I wish you and your family every good thing in the world.

I think you hit it on the head, though, when you say that if you and your wife reconcile she won’t be completely happy and neither will you. She’s back in your bed now, but you’re probably wondering how long it’ll be before she takes up with somebody else. You want to do what’s best for your little one, which is paramount, but you have to take care of your emotional health to be a good and effective parent. Please know that I am praying for your happiness and peace of mind.